Without prefacing this too much with boring details, I was supposed to go in a date tonight.
I had been talking with a dude, and due to schedule mismatches, we had to delay our date a couple times but had finally settled on going out tonight after work. We made this plan a week ago and had spoken about it again on the weekend.
Everything seemed to be on a good path, and I was actually quite looking forward to it. I haven’t been on a date since my ex and I broke up last summer, and I decided it might be a good idea to put myself out there again.
Monday rolls around and he stops responding to my text messages. I give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he’s just busy and hasn’t had a chance to respond. We are all guilty of reading a text and not being able to respond to it right away so I didn’t think too much of it.
Yesterday, Tuesday, I text him to confirm that we are going to hang out tonight. No response. Again, maybe he’s busy, but I start to doubt he could be too busy to confirm plans.
By this morning, I had come to the conclusion that it was off and made other plans for the evening. As most of you know, I work a lot and my time is limited, so when one of my friends asked if I wanted to do something, since I had previously cleared my evening for this date, I was more than happy to.
Now, I understand that people lose interest/get busy/etc., but what happened to the common courtesy of calling or texting and saying, “hey I’m really busy, I can’t make it happen” or, “sorry, I changed my mind, I’m not interested”?
When did society become so self absorbed that people have lost all respect for others’ time and emotions?
To be perfectly honest, I’m not overly upset because I hadn’t invested too much into it, but what if I had? What if I really thought that we could really make something of it?
Boys, and yes, I’m referring to those of you who are boys, man the fuck up. Be grown men, make your intentions clear, and cut the bullshit.
Let’s not waste anyone’s time, got it?
